Sort of. :)
It was our 4th anniversary this past week. Yes 4 years with that wonderful man. It has been a crazy 4 years though. I wouldn't have picked a better person to spend them with. 5 1/2 years ago when we started dating I never thought I would of married him. We were two totally different people who came from 2 totally different families. I remember on our second date we were watching a movie and he looks over at me and says, "I can't believe your sitting right next to me." What he meant was he never thought he would be at this place in his life. Coming from the past that he had and hanging out with a girl like me were just on opposite ends of the spectrum. We knew each other for a couple of years from working at Foster's, but there was no attraction there. It happened one day. It was the same day for us. It does sound cheesy but it happened the same day and from that day on we were talking about everyday until the day we went out. I believe it happened that way because of how much he changed and who he became. Then we hung out everyday for 2 weeks until I moved. When I was living in Orem I don't think we missed one week where I would either come to Cache Valley or Brady would come to Orem. I new I wanted to marry him within a few months. He puts on a hard outside but he his a teddy bear on the inside. He treats me better than any other man or even girl (not in a sexual sense :)) has treated me. He really is the best husband/father anyone could ever be. There is a reason you marry the person you marry. Heavenly Father just doesn't stick you with someone. He knows the trials you can handle and who you can handle them with. There is a reason I married Brady and not one of my other boyfriends. I don't love the trials we have together but we deal with them just fine. I think we have had a pretty easy marriage but to someone else our trials could of been a really hard marriage. It's hard these days marriage's just don't last. It's sad. I'm not going to put up with stuff and either is Brady so a little respect goes a long ways. 2 pieces of advice that I always keep in mind and have helped me alot.
-Don't talk to your spouse any different than how you would talk to your best friend (I need to work on that)
-Treat your spouse how you would want to be treated and in return they will treat you better than you ever thought.
Sure we have had our big drag out blown WAY out of porportion fights. I have learned with time to leave him alone and not chase him around trying to get answers. He has learned that I need to talk about EVERYTHING. It's been something we both had to get used to but that's what compromise is for.
Anyways I'm writing this big long post more for me to look back on. I have just had a lot of conversations with clients/family/friends about how tough marriage is and how they didn't sign up for this. Well marriage is tough. I've only been married for 4 years and I know I haven't seen nothing yet! I'm sure there will be moments when we would like to throw our fists and yell and scream. I'm willing to go through those times to spend the rest of my life (and hopefully eterenity) with the man I chose to marry. There is a reason you choose to marry the person you married.
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