I'm reading this book right now.  I don't know how I feel about it.  Right now, because of the book, I feel like my marriage won't make it to our 5th anniversary.  This book is a little overwhelming.  Hopefully when I'm done I'll feel more uplifted.  Sonya gave this to all the kids as a early christmas present.  I do love reading things like this.  

Today my client was texting me telling me that she left her husband.  I asked her why.  Even though I already knew the answer.  She tells me and puts a smiley face at the end of it.  I was so mad.  WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE.  I feel like everyone is cheating on their spouses.  What ever happened to marriage is a COMMITMENT a PROMISE to make it through the hard times.  To stay with each other.  You know for rich or for poor, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health till death do you part or eternity or whatever your beliefs may be.  When I was doing her hair a couple of weeks ago I asked her if she was happy and she said she was so I asked her then why even tempt yourself with someone else.  She told me it was because if she had to choose between her ex-fiance or her husband she honestly doesn't know who she would choose.  Will let me help you out!  There is a reason he is your EX!!  I could go off on this all night.  I could probably write a novel.  I'll save it though.  

 Commitment is a little like diving into the water. Either you are committed or you are not. Either you are moving forward or you are standing still. There’s no halfway. We all face moments of decision that change the rest of our lives. As members of the Church, we must ask ourselves, “Will I dive in or just stand at the edge? Will I step forward or merely test the temperature of the water with my toes?” - Dieter F. Utchtdorf 

Even if you're not LDS this is still a great quote.

Oneida Narrows and Comedy Show.

We went tubing down the narrows this past weekend.  I didn't get any pictures dang it.  It was a fun time!  Brady got a little beat up from falling off of the tube and almost drowning.  He says he was almost drowning........a bit of a exaggeration I think.  So the second time we went down we switched tubes because he said he couldn't stay on his and that's why he kept falling off.  Well I stayed on it just fine and it's not like I'm smaller than him so......

Baine stayed at Grandma Sally's and it sounded like he had a pretty good time himself.  He didn't cry when I left him he was just happy.  We have come a long way since he was 8 months.  It's a lot easier to leave them when they aren't crying.

2 weekends ago we went to Salt Lake for a comedy show and stayed overnight.  We went to the Wise Guys Cafe in Trolley Square.  The comedian was Robert Kelley.  I had never heard of him but he sounded like he had been around for a while.  I you-tubed some of his stuff and I was a little worried.  He didn't sound too funny.  So when we got to Salt Lake we went to dinner and some Italian place across the street from Trolley Square.  It was A-MAZING!  We might have to drive down there again just to eat there.  When we were done we really couldn't decide if we wanted to go the the show or not but there was really nothing else to do. So we went.  I'm surprised Brady didn't fall out of his chair he was laughing so hard the WHOLE time.  This guy was hilarious.  Wise Guys don't charge you very much to go to their shows and you can print a coupon off of their website for buy one get one free.  I'm telling ya I would pay good money to watch this guy again.  He was worth it.  Hopefully he comes back again.

4 Blissful Years.........

Sort of.  :)


It was our 4th anniversary this past week.  Yes 4 years with that wonderful man.   It has been a crazy 4 years though.  I wouldn't have picked a better person to spend them with.  5 1/2 years ago when we started dating I never thought I would of married him.  We were two totally different people who came from 2 totally different families.  I remember on our second date we were watching a movie and he looks over at me and says, "I can't believe your sitting right next to me."  What he meant was he never thought he would be at this place in his life.  Coming from the past that he had and hanging out with a girl like me were just on opposite ends of the spectrum.  We knew each other for a couple of years from working at Foster's, but there was no attraction there.  It happened one day.  It was the same day for us.  It does sound cheesy but it happened the same day and from that day on we were talking about everyday until the day we went out.  I believe it happened that way because of how much he changed and who he became. Then we hung out everyday for 2 weeks until I moved.  When I was living in Orem I don't think we missed one week where I would either come to Cache Valley or Brady would come to Orem.  I new I wanted to marry him within a few months.  He puts on a hard outside but he his a teddy bear on the inside.  He treats me better than any other man or even girl (not in a sexual sense :))  has treated me.  He really is the best husband/father anyone could ever be.  There is a reason you marry the person you marry.  Heavenly Father just doesn't stick you with someone.  He knows the trials you can handle and who you can handle them with.  There is a reason I married Brady and not one of my other boyfriends.  I don't love the trials we have together but we deal with them just fine.  I think we have had a pretty easy marriage but to someone else our trials could of been a really hard marriage.  It's hard these days marriage's just don't last.  It's sad.  I'm not going to put up with stuff and either is Brady so a little respect goes a long ways. 2 pieces of advice that I always keep in mind and have helped me alot.
-Don't talk to your spouse any different than how you would talk to your best friend (I need to work on that)
-Treat your spouse how you would want to be treated and in return they will treat you better than you ever thought.

Sure we have had our big drag out blown WAY out of porportion fights.  I have learned with time to leave him alone and not chase him around trying to get answers.  He has learned that I need to talk about EVERYTHING.  It's been something we both had to get used to but that's what compromise is for.

Anyways I'm writing this big long post more for me to look back on.  I have just had a lot of conversations with clients/family/friends about how tough marriage is and how they didn't sign up for this.  Well marriage is tough.  I've only been married for 4 years and I know I haven't seen nothing yet!  I'm sure there will be moments when we would like to throw our fists and yell and scream.  I'm willing to go through those times to spend the rest of my life (and hopefully eterenity)  with the man I chose to marry.  There is a reason you choose to marry the person you married.

First Big Owie

It all started on his birthday.  Brady and I left him with Grandma Sonya to play with Isabel for a couple hours.  When we got back Grandma told us how he was walking and fell onto the road and was bleeding pretty bad and that he might need stitches.  Well me being the awesome Mom that I am decided that since he wasn't bleeding through the band-aid and that it wasn't bigger than the band-aid I just went home.  You see I was under the weather and was not feeling very well at all.  I decided we both would go home and sleep it off.  Well when we woke up from our naps I was talking to my mom and decided I should look.  It looked like it might need a stitch or some glue since there was a tiny little hole.  We took him in, got it glued shut and that was that.  Well now he can't stop hitting his head.  Here's the latest bump.  

Fair

We went to the Cache County Fair this year.  First time in a couple years.  It was just how a remembered it.  Lot's of food, white trash, Mexicans, wranglers, and some pretty rank smells.  I loved it though.  Just wished I could of ate one of those fried Twinkies!  Anyways Baine I think could of cared less what was going on.  We wanted to put him on the carousel but the damn Mexican that was working and could only say "3 tokens" in English, wouldn't let him on.  

Cutest boys!

Those two were slowing us down the whole night with their  relief society.

To be expected when he knows I'm trying to snap a picture for  memories.

Here are some pictures of the kids playing creek.

What a good looking couple.

We went earlier that day with Mom, Kara and all of the other cousins to watch Aspen show her sheep.  It was a pretty long day and Baine only took a half hour nap the WHOLE day so it was a really long day for me.

CUTE KID

North Dakota and 7 new posts below........

A couple week ago Brady had to head to North Dakota to measure some houses.  No one would go and I didn't want him going by himself since he just wanted to drive straight there and back so I went.  It was a little crazy.  13 hours in a car kinda stinks I'm not gonna lie.  We left at 11 that morning, stopped in Kemmer to measure another house, stopped in Spearfish S. Dakota to eat.  Started calling for a hotel room when we were about 200 miles out.  With no such luck we spent the night in our car.  Yup.  Like I said 13 hours in a car kinda stinks.  Literally.  We got there at 3:30 in the morning.  Slept until 6.  Met with Ron at 7.  Left N. Dakota at 12.  Drove to Casper got dinner at 9.  Decided we wanted to shower so got a hotel.  Fell asleep at 10.  Alarm went off at 3.  Decided we didn't want to leave.  Slept until 6.  Got on our merry way ended up in Logan at 11.

The drive sucked but it was nice to spend that time with Brady.  Good thing we have smart phones.  I wasn't really prepared for that drive but after I downloaded some games it was a good time!  Baine stayed with the McKnights.  I was a little worried but they loved it and said he was so easy.  Here are some pictures.

Lake on the Indian Reservation.  It was so pretty.  I wish I would of had my camera.

Ashley took the kids to the splash pad.

Just waking up in the morning.  So cute!

I love this one!

Katy Perry

Lauren was so kind as to invite me to a Katy Perry concert with her.  It was alot of fun!  Katy was a excellent performer and I was pretty impressed with her songs.  (the ones not on the radio)  Note to self: next time your going to a concert by the cd first so you know what it's all about.  The 2 opening acts need to go.  They sucked and no one cheered.  They did cheer when the acts were done though.  Haha.  Yup I don't think anyone liked them.  I would definitely go again though. Katy was awesome!

4 Wheeler Ride

Baine loves the 4-wheeler.  We stopped at Kara and Phil's a couple weeks ago and Jax's 4-wheeler was sitting in the driveway and Baine immediately walked over to it and tried to hop on.  So I went and got Jax and he took Baine for a little ride.  It was pretty cute.

More of the Little Bobka's

This kid LOVES the sprinklers.  I mean LOVE LOVES them.  I hope he always loves water as much as he does now.  He could care less if it's in his face.  It startles him but he goes back for more.  The other night he had the hose in his hands and it was slightly turned on and he was just putting it in his face.  So funny!

Cute little Izzy.

Isabel got mad about something.  I can't remember what it was now, but that is her throwing a tantrum on the side of the road.

Here is a first.  She sat on my lap while we were watching some movie.  

Baine's B-day Party!

Well I told you I had a lot of pictures!  I know these collages are very busy.  Sorry.  I love this collage program that I downloaded.  I'm sure if I paid for it that it wouldn't show the words.  

A few things about his birthday.  There was too much going on for him.  He didn't like it at all until about half the guests left.  He didn't like the cake.  He seemed to have some fun in the bouncy house.  He did like the pool.  When we started to open presents I opened up the Housley's present first and he only wanted that dang push pop sucker.  I tried to take it away and he screamed.  He wasn't too interested in anything else after that.  Oops!

The food was really good.  Brady grilled burgers and my two Grandma's and my Mom brought a side.  We did cupcakes for everyone instead of just a cake.  They seemed to be a hit.  Thank goodness.  I was a little worried.  I love to cook and bake but it's hit or miss with me.  

Baine recieved some awesome gifts!  I'm so grateful for everyone and what they did to help me with his party.    I couldn't of done it all by myself.  (Even though I really thought I could)  Hopefully next year Baine will like it more.  We won't go as big as the first birthday but it was fun for us.  

Pool Day

We went to the pool one day with the McKnights.  Such a fun day!  Although Brady almost had one of the life guards talked into letting him go down the fast slide with Baine.  I think I would  of flipped.  Baine is 1 going on 5 and Brady is 32 going backwards to 18.  

Deegan basking in the sun!

Kentlee being so nice and sharing her icee with Baine.

Sleepover With Ronin!

This kid was sooooo good!  I loved having him over!  He didn't whine, throw fits, nothing.  He seriously was a angel. Here are a few pictures of the adventures while he was here.

Family Pics 2011

Here are a few.  I don't know how to get the wording off of the bottom.  At this point I don't really care it's there.

Baine is 1!

I know I know I'm so behind.  I have so much to blog about which would be easy if I didn't have as many pictures as I do!  It's a hard task to accomplish.  I have tried to collage the same photos about 3 times and each time something goes wrong.  It's enough to make me want to pull my hair out.  I think I have it figured out though so we'll see.

Anyways back to Baine turning 1!  Can you believe it?  It's crazy!  He already is throwing fits!  It must be a Bobka thing because all I know is that us Tarbets were ALWAYS angels!

12 Month Stats:

Weight 22.3 lbs 42%

Length 30.5" 71%

Head 18.8" 84%

Who knew a kid with fat rolls could be below average on weight?!?

Things he's doing:

• Eating everything Mom and Dad eat.  (Believe it or not) He's not too picky either......yet.
• Sleeping great although 1 more hour in the morning would be nice!
• Taking 2 naps a day.
• Loving Backyardagans!
• Mimicking a lot of stuff that we do.  
• Runs to our phones when they ring and brings them to us.  (I think that's pretty smart!)
• He is saying some words once in a while like milk, more, Zeus, ma, da. Does not say duck anymore.  :( Hopefully he's getting closer but I feel like we are still far off.  
• Screams in the car!  Not cry scream just a scream to get your attention.  Advice on this situation would be great!

It's crazy to think that we have a one year old but we're loving it!  Pretty sure he has Brady wrapped around his little finger.  There is nothing neater to me than watching those two cause trouble.  I love them and I love our little life over here in Franklin Idaho!  :)